But love is really more of an interactive process. It’s about what we do not just what we feel. It’s a verb, not a noun.
Death is with you all the time; you get deeper in it as you move towards it, but it’s not unfamiliar to you. It’s always been there, so what becomes unfamiliar to you when you pass away from the moment is really life.
For me, forgiveness and compassion are always linked: how do we hold people accountable for wrongdoing and yet at the same time remain in touch with their humanity enough to believe in their capacity to be transformed?
I began writing a book on love because I felt that the United States is moving away from love.
I believe that it is impossible for two individuals not committed to their own and each other’s well being to sustain a healthy and enduring relationship.
I feel like there is always something trying to pull us back into sleep, that there is this sort of seductive quality in all the hedonistic pleasures that pull on us.
I feel that my environment reflects my belief in the grace and art and elegance of living simply.
I get so tired of people acting like, you know, black men and women never help each other, never support each other.
I have been thinking about the notion of perfect love as being without fear, and what that means for us in a world that’s becoming increasingly xenophobic, tortured by fundamentalism and nationalism.
I have created a life style that supports contemplation, service to words.
I think Black people need to take self-esteem seriously.
I think I was always obsessed with esthetics.
I think the number one thing Black women and all Black people should be paying attention to is our health.
I thought about how we need to make children feel that there are times in their lives when they need to be alone and quiet and to be able to accept their aloneness.
I will not have my life narrowed down. I will not bow down to somebody else’s whim or to someone else’s ignorance.
I’m so disturbed when my women students behave as though they can only read women, or black students behave as though they can only read blacks, or white students behave as though they can only identify with a white writer.
I’m such a girl for the living room. I really like to stay in my nest and not move. I travel in my mind, and that that’s a rigorous state of journeying for me. My body isn’t that interested in moving from place to place.
I’ve written 18 books, mostly dealing with issues of social justice, ending racism, feminism, and cultural criticism.
It’s in the act of having to do things that you don’t want to that you learn something about moving past the self. Past the ego.
Life-transforming ideas have always come to me through books.
Love is a combination of care, commitment, knowledge, responsibility, respect and trust.
Many spiritual teachers – in Buddhism, in Islam – have talked about first-hand experience of the world as an important part of the path to wisdom, to enlightenment.
No other group in America has so had their identity socialized out of existence as have black women… When black people are talked about the focus tends to be on black men; and when women are talked about the focus tends to be on white women.
No woman has ever written enough.
Since loving is about knowing, we have more meaningful love relationships when we know each other and it takes time to know each other.
Some people act as though art that is for a mass audience is not good art, and I think this has been a very negative thing. I know that I have wanted very much to write books that are accessible to the widest audience possible.
The greatest movement for social justice our country has ever known is the civil rights movement and it was totally rooted in a love ethic.
The moment we choose to love we begin to move against domination, against oppression. The moment we choose to love we begin to move towards freedom, to act in ways that liberate ourselves and others. That action is the testimony of love as the practice of freedom.
The political core of any movement for freedom in the society has to have the political imperative to protect free speech.
We judge on the basis of what somebody looks like, skin color, whether we think they’re beautiful or not. That space on the Internet allows you to converse with somebody with none of those things involved.
What had begun as a movement to free all black people from racist oppression became a movement with its primary goal the establishment of black male patriarchy.
What’s really sad is that so many young women between the ages of 16 and 25 are ignorant and they already believe that women get the same pay as men. They don’t even really understand that equality hasn’t happened with the pay force.
When we drop fear, we can draw nearer to people, we can draw nearer to the earth, we can draw nearer to all the heavenly creatures that surround us.
When we face pain in relationships our first response is often to sever bonds rather than to maintain commitment.
Why is it that many contemporary male thinkers, especially men of color, repudiate the imperialist legacy of Columbus but affirm dimensions of that legacy by their refusal to repudiate patriarchy?
Yesterday I was thinking about the whole idea of genius and creative people, and the notion that if you create some magical art, somehow that exempts you from having to pay attention to the small things.
Anger and hatred lead to fear; compassion and concern for others allow us to develop self-confidence, which breeds trust and friendship.Dalai Lama